Shelley commented on fading friendships and it got me to thinking. I mentioned in her comments about three close friends that I’ve lost touch with. I know where they are and they know where I am and it wouldn’t be that big of a trick to find their phone numbers. In fact I got one’s phone number from his mother just the other day and I intend to call him here in a few minutes. I don’t expect to be calling him very often though. Don’t get me wrong, he’s still someone that I could knock on his door at 3:00 A.M. needing a place to crash and he’d point to the couch, the same goes with him showing up on my doorstep, it’s just that life prevents us from remaining buddies. It happens, we grow apart but we don’t stop caring about each other. We’re still good friends, just no longer buddies.

At some point I think every relationship will evolve into one where constant communication is no longer needed or that relationship will fail. Please don’t take that to mean that communication is no longer needed, its just that the relationship is no longer dependent upon anything more than just knowing that the other person can be counted on when needed. If those needs only POP up every five or ten years you still know that person will be there if possible. Of course spousal relationships generally requre meeting a need a tad bit more often than that.

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  By michelle winter, 3/19/2005 @ 6:39 pm

  In toronto, I am a wonderful woman. My name is Michelle Winter.
  Many of my closest and new friends, continually to move on and I never seem to have the same friend.
  what am I doing wrong? i am such a nice person!!

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